Helping women in Guatemala to stop feeling unworthy
Helping women in Guatemala to stop feeling unworthy

Hebe Llerena
Country Project Coordinator, Guatemala

Ana Loyda Hesse
Health Officer
It’s been almost two years since we first started our activities aiming at raising feelings of self-esteem among Mayan women living in rural areas of Guatemala and this time we’d like to share some of the challenges, struggles and achievements we’ve met along the way.

An initial study gave us a picture in April 2010 – and it was a bleak one. Why did women feel themselves so unworthy in their families and in their own lives? How come they did not know that they have basic rights? A time for serious questioning and action arrived right away: how could we tackle this situation? Where could we start? All we knew was that there are a lot of things to do if we are really to make a change and deliver something useful which could help rural women improve their lives.
We still remember how uncomfortable and suspicious many of the female microcredit clients used to feel at the beginning every time we dropped by their groups to deliver our training workshops on maternal and newborn health. We still remember those eyes and faces kind of asking us: what are you doing here? What are you talking about? Why do I have to waste my time listening to you? And they were absolutely right.
First, never before had they attended education sessions and training workshops of any kind.
Second, words like “self-esteem” and “rights” were so utterly unknown to them that those questions couldn’t feel any less alive.
What to do? For starters, it really surprised us to find that female microcredit clients did not know each other …not even the names of the other women in their groups!! How could this be? Aren’t microcredit group banks supposed to be based on trust? How can they trust somebody they don’t even know?
So we first started breaking the ice with some easy group dynamics and common Guatemalan games such as my favourite fruit, making boats, and gestures which allowed them to introduce themselves and share some of their likes and dislikes in life. Hopefully, these games helped all of us (microcredit clients and project team members) not only to know each others’ names, but most importantly to socialize and feel comfortable around each other.
Next, armed with pots, pans, chopping boards and other kitchen appliances and nutritional yet economic recipes we kick started our family and child nutrition sessions. These were much easier now, not controversial, and yet important, aiming to improve skills and understanding about a healthy and varied nutrition for the family and children.
Traditional Cakchiquel recipes including dobladas de chipilin, tortillas de mosh, torta española (if you don’t know, look them up, they’re yummy!) and others were prepared.
Socializing with the women, sharing a good laugh and getting to know them better while starting the fire, preparing and sharing the meals certainly helped us gain acceptance, confidence and eventually trust and eased our work towards more complex topics such as self-esteem.
It really hit us hard to see women’s feelings of unworthiness in life and in society and to witness how this had been sadly and unfairly engraved within them for generations – many times to the extreme of adopting a passive attitude and just letting the injustice or damage happen to them.
Five basic and important beliefs had to be discussed and considered within our groups:
- a) a woman has a value of her own because she is a human being – no matter how stupid or useless or ignorant a husband, father or even a mother may say the woman/wife/daughter is,
- b) they themselves are the most important persons in their own lives – and not their children, husband, and family as they were always taught,
- c) women are not guilty for all the injustices that happen to them – no matter how hard a husband/father or mother may try to blame or accuse,
- d) women should love and accept themselves the way they are – and not feel shame about their ethnicity or colour of skin, and
- e) women should not repeat the same mistakes or mistreatments with their daughters and sons – no more damaging daughter’s and son’s self-esteem with comments like Stupid girl! You cannot do anything right!
After a number of sessions these concepts have started to really sink in, raise questions and stir new thoughts. This has allowed us the first step towards changing women’s’ inner “unworthiness chip” and building a more solid and empathic relationship with them, which enabled us to tackle more serious topics such as sexual and reproductive health (S&R) and family planning (FP).
We knew there were many misconceptions and misunderstandings regarding S&R and FP topics as they are considered “taboo” in many rural communities. We still remember how some of the women (and men) used to blush, feel ashamed, and look down when talking about reproductive systems and genitals. But images had to be displayed, organs had to be called by their names, and women and men had to know their own bodies correctly if we were to address misconceptions.
We had to strive hard to deliver clear, useful, true messages without hurting sensibilities of any kind. All of the FP methods were explained in detail and advantages and disadvantages clearly and easily spelled out so that each of the women and men could have an accurate idea of which method was best for them and their partner. Teaching with respect for our groups’ views and thoughts (no matter how inaccurate or outlandish they might have sounded to us at first) and with simple vocabulary eased the tension and allowed us to break through the resistance. Newly attained knowledge continues to be assessed and refreshed with dynamic techniques and materials. 
We are currently focusing on respiratory and diarrheal diseases as they are the principal causes of death among children under five in these villages. Women and men learn how the disease or infection starts and develops and how it should be prevented or treated. Like with child nutrition, practical application of knowledge attained is always encouraged and demonstration of preparation of oral saline solutions at home was no exception.
As has been the case to date, all of our dynamics and learning methodologies (story telling, games) and training materials (puzzles, roulettes, drawings) are not only adapted to our groups’ knowledge and learning needs and interests, but always aiming to raise expectations and hunger for further learning and knowledge.
Watching the women feeling more assertive and confident of themselves is definitely our best prize so far. Hearing them say they are now aware of new information which they can fearlessly share with their daughters and granddaughters is, for us, truly inspiring.
Seeing Mayan women’s eagerness to learn more and more despite all of the other demands on their time and energy is also our most sincere call at work, as it makes us dream and believe how simple life and society could be if we were all to have the same freedoms and liberties.






